What we call a
"quantum change" is a vivid, surprising, benevolent, and
enduring personal transformation. Some quantum changes are
insightful, an "aha!" that leaves a person breathless and
confident of a new truth and a new way of thinking. Other
quantum changes are mystical, like Saint Paul’s on the road to
Damascus. Both kinds tend to impart a mysterious and enduring
sense of peacefulness. Both mark the beginning of lasting and
often pervasive changes in a person’s life. Both usually involve
a significant alteration in how one perceives other people, the
world, oneself, and the relationships among them. What
differentiates the mystical type is the sense of being acted
upon by something outside and greater than oneself.
People are
often hesitant to talk about these experiences, but they are
surprisingly common. They may occur in conjunction with a
significant external event, but they can in no way be understood
as a normal and ordinary consequence of such an event. People
standing near an individual in the midst of a quantum change may
have no inkling that anything important is happening. On the
inside of that person, however, there is no doubt about it. The
change may take just a minute or an hour or a few days, but it
is clear to that person that life will never be the same again.
Even 20 years later, a majority of quantum changers will recall
the date, time, and vivid details of the experience. What’s
more, they report that the change is still in effect.
For some, a
quantum change is clearly a breaking point where something has
to give. For others, there is no apparent crisis but perhaps an
underlying deep discrepancy suddenly resolves itself. A quantum
change may also be a stage of maturation, a higher form of
consciousness that can happen to anybody without apparent regard
for his or her degree of self-actualization. A quantum change
may also be what so many quantum changers feel it is: a touch of
grace, an encounter with the sacred. I hasten to add that none
of those who told us their stories bragged about their
experience as a badge of achievement, as an attainment of a
personal endeavor. The most common reaction of quantum changers
seems to be a grateful sense of giftedness with a humility that
pretends no unique qualification, deservingness, or entitlement.
Turning Values Upside Down
In our study of quantum changes, we asked people to describe
their values before and after their quantum change. Subjects
were given a list of 50 values and asked, "What matters most to
you?" What we found is that a quantum change turns a person’s
value system upside down. The biggest single gain is the
priority given to spirituality, which rose from the bottom third
to first place for men and third place for women. Men became
less macho and materialistic, showing major drops in the values
of achievement, adventure, comfort, fame, fun, power, and being
respected (things that women rated low to begin with). Women’s
priorities moved closer to men’s by a relatively greater drop in
emphasis on traditional feminine values like fitting in,
faithfulness to others, safety, and self-control. Though family
remained high on both lists, the centrality of family increased
for men and decreased for women.
From the
perspective of the recipient, it seems like everything in the
person’s inner world has changed for the better: emotions;
values; spirituality; sense of self and personal growth;
significant relationships; and understanding of the past,
present, and future. Yet it is also true that the change does
not happen all at once. Many of our storytellers emphasized that
their experience was not just an event, but the beginning of an
ongoing process. Although there was a dramatic triggering event,
the process of change went on for some time. It was common for
them to describe their experiences as still going on more than a
decade later. The sea captain who wrote "Amazing Grace," for
example, was inspired by a transformational experience that
happened while he was transporting a shipload of slaves. Yet he
continued to make several more slaving voyages before finally
redirecting his life. There seems to be a period of
consolidation, of integration, after a quantum event. None of
this is to say that a quantum change makes life perfect — either
immediately or eventually. Yet life takes on new meaning, a kind
of perfect imperfection.
After 15 years
of research, we have developed some perspectives on why people
experience quantum change, but we still do not have satisfactory
answers to why quantum change happens to some people and not
others. What is truly hopeful is that it does occur. It comes
even to those not seeking it, not even aware of a need or
possibility for such deep renewal. It’s as though life delights
in taking us by surprise, by tapping us on the shoulder and
reminding us now and again of how very little we really know of
all that is possible.
The
Moment That Turns Your Values Upside Down
Men and women ranked their most highly valued personal
characteristics before and after a quantum change.
View this
chart to learn more.
First published in
Spirituality & Health magazine, February 2005
(www.SpiritualityHealth.com).